So, I went around all weekend on retreat and asked married women (and widows) this question:
What do I need to know before I get married? What do you wish you had known, or what have you learned?
Here's some of my favorite answers (covering the spectrum of spiritual to funny):
* Put God first, then your husband, then your kids. It's too easy to let the kids rise to the top.
(I noticed on this one that I don't even make the list!)
* Communicate clearly about everything, from the beginning. Don't let stuff build up.
* No matter how poor you are, or how busy you are - go on dates!
* "Don't expect him to be just like Jesus. I thought at first he would be, because he loved me."
* Overlook the little annoyances. Chances are, he's clueless, not intentional.
* When you want God to change things in your husband - He'll probably change you!
* "I wish someone would have warned me - he poked me in the middle of the night, woke me up. And I was like, really? Now? I was sound asleep!"
* Laugh! Have a sense of humor!
* "Keep your mouth shut! and that's from someone who didn't :)"
* Know the difference between talking and communicating.
* There may be a day when you wake up and think, "Who are you? What am I doing here?" But push through it, and you'll come out with a strengthened marriage.
Anyone have anything else to add?? I'd love to hear from you!